4 Ways I'm Overcoming Self-Doubt

By: Embracing Her Den

This is essentially how my blog really began...

I thought about a blog probably a year or more ago but didn’t think it was “me”. It was mostly the self-doubt speaking. I began exploring other creative outlets and eventually wanted to create an Instagram account which I sat on for 7 months –again, the self-doubt. My hope was to create a community of moms where they could feel heard and supported. My cousin encouraged me to start a blog.

What was a common theme? The self-doubt. “I’m not good enough. Who cares what I have to say? I can’t do it” all ran through my head. “How can I balance a business and meet all my family’s needs”? I went ahead anyway and created a site. I was scared to publish it. Self-doubt creeping up again. I started to feel like a fake. Then I ditched that irrational thought. How am I fake? My job is literally CEO of my household! I can talk about what I do and my struggles. I’m not pretending to be something I’m not!

So, here I am!

The 4 ways I’m working on changing my self-doubt:

1. Judgment Free Zone-Limiting Beliefs What are my limiting beliefs? I’m beginning to listen to my negative thoughts without judgement. Once I do this I can better work through the irrational thoughts. Is this thought true? What’s the evidence? Is it helpful? How is this thought holding me back?
   

2. Trust my Instincts This is a difficult one for me since I tend to reach out to people (mainly my husband) for reassurance that I’m doing “the right thing”. Example, I’d think my child needs to go to the doctor. I would double guess my instincts and question whether I was overreacting. Ultimately, I ask my husband who is at work and gives me reassurance to do what I think is best. Turns out I’m correct. It ends up being that one of my kids does have an ear infection or their cough sounds strange so I should take them in. My son developed Croup last year and RSV this year. If I waited these things could have been worse and all because I didn’t trust myself. I’m taking more initiative to not have to seek other's approval.
   

3. Positive Affirmations Okay, I need to be better at this. Instead of waiting until I’m feeling down, I need to practice while I’m feeling good as well. I suggest you do the same! Create those new neuro pathways!
   

4. Take Action Sometimes we just need to dive right in and just go for it. Like, I did with my blog. I was scared and decided just to push that “publish” button! You do it, live, learn, and grow from it.
   

It takes work, but I know you can do it! As always, if you need help seek professional support and spend time with loved ones.

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